If you come from a wealthy family and your parents have friends from all walks of life, then learning the ways of the world and being a gentleman is very beneficial for you.
If you are just a child from an ordinary family, lacking background and connections, the so-called ways of the world often involve garbage friends around you who treat you like a monkey, exploiting and mocking you. To put it bluntly, those who frequently associate with wealthy families are not simple individuals; the social connections of others can bring resources and opportunities.
However, those who have spent too long in a poor environment are like a group of vampires, waiting for others to become successful so they can share in the spoils. If you associate with such people and speak sincerely with them, how can you not suffer losses? How can you not be treated like a clown and mocked? A person is poor precisely because their mindset is one of taking, waiting, and relying on others.
They fantasize all day about their relatives and friends working hard to become wealthy, so they can come and help them. It is precisely because of this mindset that they view those close to them as fools, as sheep to be slaughtered.
What is the essence of social connections?
It is the exchange of benefits.
But you will find that when you are poor, when you are at your lowest, no matter how much sincerity you have shown to those around you, others still will not treat you as important. They may even come to mock and belittle you, attempting to derive some pleasure from your embarrassment. This is the truth.
Why do they do this?
Because they realize that they cannot gain any naked monetary benefits or valuable connections from you. On the contrary, treating you as a clown to mock, ridicule, and repeatedly exploit your value is the best way to interact with you. To put it harshly, the social connections of the poor are like scavenging for food in a garbage heap.
No matter how graceful your demeanor is, no matter how you comfort yourself, that suffocating feeling of nausea will always disgust you. In fact, all the frameworks, rules, morals, and social connections in this world are designed to restrict the poor.
As the saying goes: If the rich do not act recklessly, they will remain rich for life; if the poor do not act recklessly, they will remain poor for life.
It is precisely because the rich have established themselves that they need social connections and gentlemanly etiquette to maintain their image.
But what about your own situation?
Do you have a solid family background? Do you have a strong background?
Since you do not, why voluntarily put on a restrictive spell to limit yourself? You are not some wealthy child experiencing life; by voluntarily putting on a restrictive spell, no one can guarantee you will achieve enlightenment.
In short, in a poor environment, never believe in morals or emotions.
All the excellent qualities you possess in the lower strata of society are competitive disadvantages, actively giving up your chips.
Similarly, in a materially impoverished environment, no matter how skillfully you play the social game with others, you are merely dancing with worthless people and matters.
In the end, you will surely be cleaned out by everyone, and others will not feel the slightest guilt.