When I saw Satya's "Family is the 'Factory' that Shapes People", I deeply empathized with it. The theory is particularly insightful, emphasizing the importance of the original family in shaping personality.
When family members are unable to express emotions and feelings openly, "roles" will replace the true self. She points out that family members often play five roles, especially in stressful situations. These five roles are:
- Family members who always find fault and criticize others ("blaming type")
- Emotionless rationalists ("super rational type")
- People who disrupt in order to divert attention from emotional issues ("distracting type")
- Family members who always apologize to please others ("pleasing type")
- Open, sincere, and direct communicators ("consistent type")
Only those who are consistent are healthy and harmonious, their inner emotions matching their communication with other family members. Family members in other roles are afraid to show or share their true feelings due to lack of self-esteem.
I believe everyone can find examples of these five characters in their families, and I can immediately bring a real-life example to mind for each character.
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