Dreamer: Female, 33 years old, in a relationship
Dream: I dreamt that my boyfriend and I took a bus and then transferred to another bus to go to Wuming (a county in Nanning) for a trip. When we were coming back, he was carrying a bag and a bike lock fell out. I told him to pick it up, but he didn't. He said the bus was coming and wanted to get on. I got so angry and scolded him. When I saw him get on the bus, I picked up the lock and got on as well. After getting on the bus, I asked him how much the bus ticket was. He said 5 yuan. I asked why it was only 2 yuan when we came. He said we had to transfer when we came, but now it's a direct bus from Wuming back to Nanning. So we took the bus back together.
Analysis of the dream:
Temporary feelings of love. The "bus" represents a "temporary emotional journey". The dreamer said that her mother does not approve of her relationship because both she and her boyfriend are only children, and her mother believes that having four parents in the future will bring a lot of pressure to their lives. The dreamer feels that in their relationship, both sides are stubborn and willful. The part in the dream where she tells him to pick up the lock but he doesn't is a reflection of this stubborn mentality.
Desire for a relaxed relationship. Going out to play allows the mood to fly, and going to Wuming represents this psychological connection. This psychological connection triggers conflicts and attacks in their usual interactions due to their stubborn personalities. The bicycle represents independence and self-reliance, which is how both of them are in the relationship, resulting in a "heart lock". Him not picking it up refers to him not catering to the dreamer's willful mentality and not knowing how to comfort her. Me scolding him is also a result of his stubbornness conflicting with my personality. This is the result of "coming back", I got on my boyfriend's "thief ship" and can only get the "conflict caused by both being only children" (picking up the lock).
Consideration of emotional value. Due to the strong opposition from her mother and the conflicting feelings caused by their personalities, the dreamer considers "coming back" from this emotional journey. "It was only 2 yuan when we came", no matter how conflicting their personalities are, the emotional connection formed through time accumulates, and "now it's 5 yuan" (the emotions are deep). Moreover, they had to transfer when they came, but now it's a direct bus (it was not easy when they came, but it's quick to leave). The goal is "nameless" (Wuming), and the inner struggle is "difficult to untangle" (Nanning). The dreamer is conflicted between the goal of going to the "nameless" place (Wuming), which creates a temporary feeling in the relationship, and the process of being stubborn and hurting each other. The outcome can only be the current inner struggle of "difficult to untangle" (Nanning).
The dreamer is a mommy's girl and has always lived in her mother's "embrace". When she went to college and started working, her mother would always cry. Whenever her daughter has a boyfriend, her mother is always dissatisfied and worries about various things. Now that her daughter is grown up, her mother always finds faults with the boyfriend and hinders her daughter's happiness. The difficulties in the dreamer's relationship are not only due to her own reasons, but also the result of family upbringing, especially the interference from her mother, which is actually the biggest obstacle to her daughter's happiness.